10 Ways To Deal With Haitus'

Hey all. So, Harriet asked for help with the blog, and here I am.

So I'm a ridiculously huge fan of Supernatural, and if any of you are (huge or otherwise), you'll know that we were left on a massive cliffhanger (I'll attempt to keep any spoilers out of this). So I thought, what the heck, let's write down ways to survive helltus - or any other haitus.

1.  Spend an obscene amount of time on Tumblr - Hey, you may do this anyway (I do, and I admit that), but what better way to fill your time, and so what if you cry at every post related to the show...
2. Eat a very large amount of ice cream - Because really, this is just like a break up, although you know you're gonna get back together, it still leaves a pit in your chest that never, ever, ever seems to end.
3. Get into another show - Because what better way to fill that pit but with another one that'll just make it bigger, and bigger, and when that show takes a break you'll probably cry, but by that time, the original show should hopefully be back on.
4. Go outside and take up a sport - haha jk 
5. Draw fanart - Maybe you don't think you're great at drawing, but trust me this way you'll get better, especially if you take your inspiration from others.
6. Read fanfiction - Because when there are fans, the story's never over.
7. Write fanfiction - Story. Never. Over.
8. Plot world domination - Blueprints, small scale models, ect.
9. Test your method of world domination in small scale - Maybe on a town or a city, maybe just one country, you choose.
10. Dominate the world - What else is there to do at this point?

So, I hope that helps, and I hope that show comes on without the two year wait we had to endure for Sherlock.
Goodbye readers. Goodbye.

An announcement.

GUESS WHO'S BACK, BACK AGAIN.

Sorry I haven't written in like a bajillion years. 

After my birthday which is the 12th of August, there will be brand new posts coming from every direction. ^_^ Look forward to those!

Ok, back to the original post.

All my life, I've known some things weren't quite right.

But I could never manage to pick out what those exact things were.

I've known ever since the age of 4.

But now, I've finally managed to pick them all out. At least, I think I have.

And I want to share one of them with the world.

I thought it'd be the most appropriate to put it on my blog, because a facebook post didn't really appeal to me.

Some people know what I'm about to announce already. I've confided in people long before I have ever had a chance to say this to everyone else who I know.

So, here goes....

I was in year 5 and I knew immediately what was going on with me.

I had a small crush on a girl.

Ok, a crush isn't that significant. But it developed and it started to turn into something a bit more.

I was terrified to tell anyone.

At the time, I thought being gay was a bad thing, being uneducated about the subject. I kind of put it in the back of my head and pretended it wasn't there. I tried to not look at this girl or talk to her or have anything to do with her, and yet I loved her and it was very painful.

Sure, I was 9. I probably didn't know what love was. Maybe it was just a strong liking to this person (who I won't name, in order to protect her life and my own) 

I'm pretty sure I know what love is - love is when you really care about that person and will do anything for them to be safe and happy and you want to keep them happy more than yourself because they're the most important person in your life. I know I don't know much, but I know what love is, I'm pretty sure.

In year 6, I got a boyfriend and I was fine with having one - I came to a conclusion that I wasn't attracted to girls and I passed it off as a phase, as I was sure I was attracted to boys.

But in year 7, those feelings for girls came back stronger.

I just had visions of me with a girlfriend and me kissing her and her kissing me, and I felt really happy. It sounds strange that I'd have those visions at 11 but I couldn't really hold them back.

I felt like it would be right.

At that time, I was 12. I was educated about homosexuality and transsexuality and everything to do with sexualities and identities so I knew not to keep those feelings back.

That year, a relative also came out and I felt very happy for them, but at the same time I cried because I couldn't say 'Me too.' I said it was because I was scared of ignorant people bullying them, and myself.

I came out to my parents at the time by simply saying "It'd be fun to have a girlfriend." And we talked a bit about same-sex relationships, saying it shouldn't be such a controversy because it's natural as they can't change who they are. They didn't mind me being attracted to girls in the slightest.

Through year 8, I had a huge crush on a boy which soon turned into love (most of you, if not all of you, know who it is.) and in 2013 in early year 9 on the 24th of October, he asked me to be his girlfriend and we've been together up until now, for nearly 9 months which feels amazing, and it's not that long for a relationship but those feelings haven't changed and if anything, they've gotten stronger.

I STILL knew in my head that I was bi. I came out to him and he was perfectly fine with it, saying 'It doesn't change you - you're still Hattie.' which I found to be one of the nicest things anyone had ever said to me about my sexuality. People would look at us and think that we were both straight. He is straight, just to clarify. Not that it matters.

That same month, I came out to a few of my friends, telling them to keep it a secret. They all did.

In June (gay pride month!) I came out to a few more friends and they were shocked at first, but knew there was nothing wrong with it.

And I'm deciding to make it official.

I'm bi.

And it doesn't matter. I shouldn't have to come out, but I'm proud of who I am and I don't want to keep it from anyone.

Yes, it's my own personal business, but I'm deciding to be open about it.

I'm Harriet and I'm bi. AND WHAT.

1000 PAGEVIEWS.

HOLY FREAKING FRICKLE FRICK FRACK.

ONE THOUSAND.

WE'RE ONTO 4 DIGITS.

JEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEZUS.

YEAAAAAAAAAAAAAAHHHHHHHHHHHHHH

WOOP WOOP

*HAS IMAGINARY PARTY IN HEAD*

....

On a serious note, thank you guys so much for taking time out to read the random crap I post.

It really motivates me to write more, and I want to write professionally one day. :} This is, so far, the most viewed blog I've ever written. I'm glad it's starting to drive on the road to success, even though 1000 isn't a massively massive number these days. But hey, 4 digits! Wahoo. This made my day.

I love you.

^.^

I wonder what I should do to celebrate my 1000th view.

Maybe I should interview someone.... x)

-Harriet

Annoying school cliques (REQUESTED)

Cliques are probably the most annoying part of school. They're everywhere. Like it or not, you'll be judged and sorted into a 'category'. It's unfair and stupid. I think to myself "Why can't people just shut up and get along?"

If you don't know what a clique is, a clique is basically a group of friends who are all very similar in a certain way (usually they all share a characteristic) and either A: Won't let anyone else in their group of friends and will judge them or B: Are a decent group of people who will talk to anyone. But the worst kind of clique is C: Think they're the most superior clique. I like to call these people.... the plastics.

DISCLAIMER DISCLAIMER DISCLAIMER:

I really think there shouldn't be cliques. I don't WANT there to be, but you have to admit that there are quite a few cliques in our school.

This post is bound to offend somebody, but I honestly really don't want to offend anyone.

This was requested.

To not offend anyone, I'm not going to add descriptions to the cliques I'm about to list that I've seen. I'll just list the names of them. You can add your own definitions.

I think I haven't been sorted into one. I think I'm in multiple. In effect, I don't really have a clique.

By other people, I've probably been sorted into the gamers, internet fangirls, nerds, musicians and un-fitting people. And I guess I hang around with multiple groups of people on the side. I'm more involved with some cliques than others.
Someone asked me if an unpopular person could go out with a popular person - why shouldn't they? If they like each other in that way, why not? I guess it's quite rare because they might be made fun of/kicked out of their clique. Most cliques are pretty immature like that.

Here are the cliques I've seen which sadly exist. Some are good to exist. I like a lot of these groups of people. I haven't SORTED anyone into these - these are here for you to see what kind of group you and your friends are, or if you're in multiple groups.

-Unintelligent chavs

-Intelligent chavs

-Wannabe chavs

-Teacher's pets

-Gamers

-Desperate wannabes

-Internet fangirls

-Band geeks

-Musicians

-Tryhard musicians

-Athletes

-Annoying athletes

-Tryhard athletes

-Quintelligents (Quiet and intelligent)

-People who make you feel like crap because they're somehow amazing at everything

-People who make you feel like crap because you're part of their species

-Un-fitting people

-Talents

-Disney-obsessed girls

-Arrogants

-Mehs

-Wannabe hipsters (Wipsters :D)

-Posers

-Plastics



Some of these aren't even at our school - I gathered a few of these from the interwebs. ^.^

I'm not even going to bother putting down 'popular' and 'unpopular'.
There are too many cliques inside those categories.

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HOLD UP. IGNORE EVERYTHING LISTED ABOVE.

People are PEOPLE.

NOW CAN WE GET ALONG PLEASE?

....sadly, no. Society is stupid and douchey.

How to deal with jealousy/envy

Sometimes you really can't help being jealous of someone, or you envy something they have that you don't.

Maybe they have a better family than you in some ways, or they are better looking than you. Admit it - we've all been jealous of someone for whatever reason.

It's not healthy!
Envy is one of the causes of unhappiness. Honestly, it's really unhealthy for your brain and causes stress and in some cases, psychopathic thoughts.

Here's how to deal with being jealous/envious of someone:

Step 1: Be happy for them.

If you're jealous of them, you want whatever they have which you don't, whereas if you're envious it means you want to destroy what they have or make them lose possession of it.
If they have something good, try being happy for that person. Go up to them maybe and compliment what they have. Making people feel happy is a cause of happiness - it's an opposite of being jealous/envious and makes you feel good. You might not want that person to feel happy, but come on; you only live once so why not make others around you happy? You won't feel happy otherwise - spend your one life being the purpose of someone's happiness because it's awesome.

Step 2: Be confident in yourself.

If that person's making you feel bad because they have something about themselves that you don't, read the following.

I want you to get a pen and paper or open up notepad or anything you can write on.

Done?








You done?
No?

Hurry up.







Done?
Ok, good.

Now, write 5 or more things that are good about yourself or make you feel good about yourself.
Maybe you like your figure or you helped that person yesterday.
Perhaps you love your family or you have friends who love you. You could have a girlfriend or boyfriend. Maybe you're thankful for how much money you're lucky to have or you think you're intelligent/musical/sporty or whatever.
Or you got lots of likes on a profile picture.
You might've made someone smile today.
They can be as big or as small as you like.
I promise you you will be able to come up with at least 5.

See? You're an amazing person. Don't let anybody else tell you otherwise because they're wrong and now you know it.

And if you want something someone else has, try to get it. If it's impossible, be happy for them.
It's the best you can do. :}

-Harriet

How to maintain a friendship (REQUESTED)

Friends are AWESOME.

They like the same stuff as you, they're just like you in many ways and they always listen to you and appreciate you, as well as give you a massive amount of respect and trust and you give it to them in return. Life without friends is like cake without sugar.

It's boring and doesn't taste good.

They're quite hard to find, but once you find them, surely you don't want to have a messy fallout with them. Here's how to maintain that friendship.

Step 1: Say ok.

Unless you have other unmissable plans or it makes you uncomfortable, say yes to them when they ask you to do stuff either for them or with them.

"Hey, I'm going swimming on Saturday with (insert name here). You should come too."

"Yeah ok!"

"Come sit with us."
"Ok!"

"Could I borrow your sharpener?"
"Sure."

"Ugh I really hate this homework. Could you give me the answers for questions 6 and 7?"

"KK"

If you're loyal to them, this tells them that you're a good person to them and you're there for them.

But don't JUST say ok. Make plans with them too. Maybe invite them to see a new movie that you both take an interest in at the cinema or take them swimming. Maybe just go around your house and watch youtube videos or host a sleepover.

Don't do anything that you don't want to do, though.

Step 2: "We have so much in common."

Get to know that person and find stuff that they're interested in - if you both like something, talk about it more or maybe do stuff to do with it.

"Hey do you watch Dan and Phil?"

"YES I LOVE THEM have you seen their new video with Alfie?"
"Yeah - it's hilarious. How did they manage to guess that? I would never've guessed that."

"I know - I love the part when they-" (ETC.)

"We should go to a convention where Dan and Phil are. I heard that Zoe might be there too."
"YESYESYES THERE'S THAT FESTIVAL WE CAN GO TO"

But be aware: Festivals are only for privileged friends. Don't spend money on friends you don't know too well.

Step 3: Remember it. 

When it's their birthday, give them a card or a present if you REALLY like them. Find out what they like and give them a present to do with it.

Make sure you're good friends before giving them birthday pressies - if you're a stranger to them and you just simply happen to know that they like frozen and you give them a plush olaf, they might think you're a bit strange as you've been stalking them. But that's mean - decent people would be like "Thanks! What's your name?"

Step 4: Don'ts.

Don't stalk them too much or tell them anything that you only found out through stalking them.

"I love Harry Potter as well!"

"Um I've never told you I liked Harry Potter."

"It was on your facebook. You posted a status 48 hours, 37 minutes and 5 seconds ago saying "Re-reading the Harry Potter books again #nostalgia4lyfff"

"O_O"

Do this instead:

"Hey do you like Harry Potter?"
"Yeeees! I'm re-reading the books."
"Oh cool - that came up on my newsfeed."

If they find out you've been stalking them, they might look at you as clingy and that's a bit of a switch off.

It's good to do some research, but don't be that stalker guy that everyone wants to avoid.

It's fine to look at people's facebook - just don't be clingy!

Don't get into arguments with them.

If they say something you disagree with, just play it cool and don't raise your voice.

Step 5: Be there.

If they're upset, be the shoulder to cry on. Let them know you're there - there's nothing better than knowing either you're not alone or there are people who are supporting you.

I hope that helped a few of you because it certainly helped me. ^.^

-Harriet

How to deal with sadness/suicide

(So, this is quite a different post to what I usually do. I got inspired to make this post for anyone, anywhere.)

Being sad is probably one of the things in the world that sucks the most.

It sucks.

A lot.

Every single human experiences sadness in many ways - whether it's depression, loneliness, heartbreak, anxiety, feeling like you don't have a place in this world or dealing with death (there are billions of other kinds of sadness), all humans experience at least one of these things and you shouldn't feel like the only one, even though it's hard not to think of that at the time. Loads of people in this world are going through the same thing as you. Don't feel like the only one dealing with something, because there are other people out there who know how you feel. If you're going through a crisis or a sudden turn in the road, I am here in case you want to talk to me. There are also thousands of people who can help you.

-Your family

-The school councillor (Yes, there is one in pretty much EVERY school in the first world. They don't tell the students who don't need a councillor.)

-Your friends - if you trust someone who is willing to keep a secret for you, tell them! It's what friends are for.

-Hotlines (I'll put some at the bottom of the post.)

-Police

-Go to this website: www.thequietplaceproject.org because it really helped me - you ask anonymous people to solve your problems, write down stuff where nobody else can see it and you can help other anonymous people - you could save a life on there. Someone could save yours.

But how can I make this sadness go away?

Well, it depends what it is.

-Take time. Don't expect your gloominess to be over in a day. Time is key to happiness. If you're mourning over someone or you've just had a fallout/breakup, it's clear that you won't be all right after that day. It takes time, but eventually, you'll be happy! It's better than never being happy again.

-Distractions. If someone's died or you just broke up with someone/got rejected by someone, distract yourself from the sadness! Eat loads of chocolate - it has the same mood-lifting compounds found in ecstasy, morphine and marijuana. Don't do drugs, though. ^.^
Watch youtube videos, play video games, go to sleep, take a really amaaaazing bath, bake something, exercise, look at cats, ANYTHING!

-Talk. A lot of people are there for you, so if you need advice or someone to vent to, do it to someone in person. Or on the internet, if that's what suits you.

-LET IT GOOOOO, LET IT GOOOOO! CAN'T HOLD IT BACK ANYMOREEEEE!
In other words, cry. You feel a lot better afterwards. If you feel like crying later, that's not because it didn't work! Cry when you need to. If you're angry, PUNCH THE SHENANIGANS OUT OF YOUR PILLOW. I might do a post on how to deal with anger. o:

-Anything that suits you.

-If it's a problem that's worrying you, think it through and try to solve it. If it's an exam, go study for it (I wrote a blog post on how to revise for an exam if you want to check that out.) If it's a friend problem or a problem with another person, try to contact them or go to thequietplaceproject.com and go to the 'comfort spot' for help. If you're coming out, search the internet for inspiration. I might write a blog post on how to come out. That's one for the future. :)

If you or someone you know is having suicidal thoughts, get help or get them help. Help is the only way out.

Suicide hotlines:

Argentina Suicide Hotlines

Armenia Suicide Hotlines

Australia Suicide Hotlines

Austria Suicide Hotlines

Barbados Suicide Hotlines

Belgium Suicide Hotlines

Botswana Suicide Hotlines

Brazil Suicide Hotlines

Canada Suicide Hotlines

China Suicide Hotlines

Croatia Suicide Hotlines

Cyprus Suicide Hotlines

Denmark Suicide Hotlines

Egypt Suicide Hotlines

Estonia Suicide Hotlines

Fiji Suicide Hotlines

Finland Suicide Hotlines

France Suicide Hotlines

Germany Suicide Hotlines

Ghana Suicide Hotlines

Gibraltar Suicide Hotlines

Hong Kong Suicide Hotlines

Hungary Suicide Hotlines

India Suicide Hotlines

Ireland Suicide Hotlines

Israel Suicide Hotlines

Italy Suicide Hotlines

Japan Suicide Hotlines

Liberia Suicide Hotlines

Lithuania Suicide Hotlines

Malaysia Suicide Hotlines

Malta Suicide Hotlines

Mauritius Suicide Hotlines

Namibia Suicide Hotlines

Netherlands Suicide Hotlines

New Zealand Suicide Hotlines

Norway Suicide Hotlines

Paupua New Guinea Suicide Hotlines

Philippines Suicide Hotlines

Poland Suicide Hotlines

Portugal Suicide Hotlines

Russian Federation Suicide Hotlines

Somoa Suicide Hotlines

Serbia Suicide Hotlines

Singapore Suicide Hotlines

South Africa Suicide Hotlines

South Korea Suicide Hotlines

Spain Suicide Hotlines

Sri Lanka Suicide Hotlines

St. Vincent Suicide Hotlines

Sudan Suicide Hotlines

Sweden Suicide Hotlines

Switzerland Suicide Hotlines

Taiwan Suicide Hotlines

Thailand Suicide Hotlines

Tobago Suicide Hotlines

Tonga Suicide Hotlines

Trinidad and Tobago Suicide Hotlines

Turkey Suicide Hotlines

Ukraine Suicide Hotlines

United Kingdom Suicide Hotlines

United States Suicide Hotlines

Zimawe Suicide Hotlines

You might feel like you don't want help because you want to get out of here as fast as possible, but it gets better with time. I promise you that you'll get better. The problems might not go away, but you as a person will get better. You'll only experience happiness again if you get help.

Here is a children's/teenager's UK hotline. (as the majority of the viewers on this blog are from the UK.)

Childline (part of the NSPCC) (talk to an online counselor in private about almost anything. It also gives you puberty advice and lessons on current issues) :
0800 1111

If you want me to cover any other problems you or someone else might be having, such as eating disorders or self harming, I will be more than willing to make a post about it.

And if you're being bullied, I promise you you'll get better. Speak up and reach out.

-Harriet