Monday 12 May 2014

1000 PAGEVIEWS.

HOLY FREAKING FRICKLE FRICK FRACK.

ONE THOUSAND.

WE'RE ONTO 4 DIGITS.

JEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEZUS.


YEAAAAAAAAAAAAAAHHHHHHHHHHHHHH

WOOP WOOP

*HAS IMAGINARY PARTY IN HEAD*

....

On a serious note, thank you guys so much for taking time out to read the random crap I post.
It really motivates me to write more, and I want to write professionally one day. :} This is, so far, the most viewed blog I've ever written. I'm glad it's starting to drive on the road to success, even though 1000 isn't a massively massive number these days. But hey, 4 digits! Wahoo. This made my day.
I love you.
^.^

I wonder what I should do to celebrate my 1000th view.
Maybe I should interview someone.... x)

-Harriet

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Sunday 11 May 2014

Annoying school cliques (REQUESTED)


Cliques are probably the most annoying part of school. They're everywhere. Like it or not, you'll be judged and sorted into a 'category'. It's unfair and stupid. I think to myself "Why can't people just shut up and get along?"
If you don't know what a clique is, a clique is basically a group of friends who are all very similar in a certain way (usually they all share a characteristic) and either A: Won't let anyone else in their group of friends and will judge them or B: Are a decent group of people who will talk to anyone. But the worst kind of clique is C: Think they're the most superior clique. I like to call these people.... the plastics.

DISCLAIMER DISCLAIMER DISCLAIMER:

I really think there shouldn't be cliques. I don't WANT there to be, but you have to admit that there are quite a few cliques in our school.
This post is bound to offend somebody, but I honestly really don't want to offend anyone.
This was requested.

To not offend anyone, I'm not going to add descriptions to the cliques I'm about to list that I've seen. I'll just list the names of them. You can add your own definitions.
I think I haven't been sorted into one. I think I'm in multiple. In effect, I don't really have a clique.
By other people, I've probably been sorted into the gamers, internet fangirls, nerds, musicians and un-fitting people. And I guess I hang around with multiple groups of people on the side. I'm more involved with some cliques than others.
Someone asked me if an unpopular person could go out with a popular person - why shouldn't they? If they like each other in that way, why not? I guess it's quite rare because they might be made fun of/kicked out of their clique. Most cliques are pretty immature like that.

Here are the cliques I've seen which sadly exist. Some are good to exist. I like a lot of these groups of people. I haven't SORTED anyone into these - these are here for you to see what kind of group you and your friends are, or if you're in multiple groups.

-Unintelligent chavs

-Intelligent chavs

-Wannabe chavs

-Teacher's pets

-Gamers

 -Desperate wannabes

-Internet fangirls

-Band geeks

-Musicians

-Tryhard musicians

-Athletes

-Annoying athletes

 -Tryhard athletes

-Quintelligents (Quiet and intelligent)

-People who make you feel like crap because they're somehow amazing at everything

-People who make you feel like crap because you're part of their species

-Un-fitting people

-Talents

-Disney-obsessed girls

-Arrogants

 -Mehs

 -Wannabe hipsters (Wipsters :D)

 -Posers

-Plastics

Some of these aren't even at our school - I gathered a few of these from the interwebs. ^.^

I'm not even going to bother putting down 'popular' and 'unpopular'.
There are too many cliques inside those categories.

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HOLD UP. IGNORE EVERYTHING LISTED ABOVE.

People are PEOPLE.

NOW CAN WE GET ALONG PLEASE?

....sadly, no. Society is stupid and douchey.
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Wednesday 7 May 2014

How to deal with jealousy/envy


Sometimes you really can't help being jealous of someone, or you envy something they have that you don't.
Maybe they have a better family than you in some ways, or they are better looking than you. Admit it - we've all been jealous of someone for whatever reason.
It's not healthy!
Envy is one of the causes of unhappiness. Honestly, it's really unhealthy for your brain and causes stress and in some cases, psychopathic thoughts.

Here's how to deal with being jealous/envious of someone:

 Step 1: Be happy for them.

If you're jealous of them, you want whatever they have which you don't, whereas if you're envious it means you want to destroy what they have or make them lose possession of it.
If they have something good, try being happy for that person. Go up to them maybe and compliment what they have. Making people feel happy is a cause of happiness - it's an opposite of being jealous/envious and makes you feel good. You might not want that person to feel happy, but come on; you only live once so why not make others around you happy? You won't feel happy otherwise - spend your one life being the purpose of someone's happiness because it's awesome.

Step 2: Be confident in yourself.

 If that person's making you feel bad because they have something about themselves that you don't, read the following.

I want you to get a pen and paper or open up notepad or anything you can write on.

Done?








You done?
No?

Hurry up.







Done?
Ok, good.

Now, write 5 or more things that are good about yourself or make you feel good about yourself.
Maybe you like your figure or you helped that person yesterday.
Perhaps you love your family or you have friends who love you. You could have a girlfriend or boyfriend. Maybe you're thankful for how much money you're lucky to have or you think you're intelligent/musical/sporty or whatever.
Or you got lots of likes on a profile picture.
You might've made someone smile today.
They can be as big or as small as you like.
I promise you you will be able to come up with at least 5.

See? You're an amazing person. Don't let anybody else tell you otherwise because they're wrong and now you know it.

And if you want something someone else has, try to get it. If it's impossible, be happy for them.
It's the best you can do. :}

-Harriet

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Tuesday 6 May 2014

How to maintain a friendship (REQUESTED)


Friends are AWESOME.
They like the same stuff as you, they're just like you in many ways and they always listen to you and appreciate you, as well as give you a massive amount of respect and trust and you give it to them in return. Life without friends is like cake without sugar.
It's boring and doesn't taste good.
They're quite hard to find, but once you find them, surely you don't want to have a messy fallout with them. Here's how to maintain that friendship.

Step 1: Say ok.

Unless you have other unmissable plans or it makes you uncomfortable, say yes to them when they ask you to do stuff either for them or with them.

"Hey, I'm going swimming on Saturday with (insert name here). You should come too."
"Yeah ok!"

"Come sit with us."
"Ok!"

"Could I borrow your sharpener?"
"Sure."
"Ugh I really hate this homework. Could you give me the answers for questions 6 and 7?"
"KK"

If you're loyal to them, this tells them that you're a good person to them and you're there for them.
But don't JUST say ok. Make plans with them too. Maybe invite them to see a new movie that you both take an interest in at the cinema or take them swimming. Maybe just go around your house and watch youtube videos or host a sleepover.

Don't do anything that you don't want to do, though.

Step 2: "We have so much in common."

Get to know that person and find stuff that they're interested in - if you both like something, talk about it more or maybe do stuff to do with it.

"Hey do you watch Dan and Phil?"
"YES I LOVE THEM have you seen their new video with Alfie?"
"Yeah - it's hilarious. How did they manage to guess that? I would never've guessed that."
"I know - I love the part when they-" (ETC.)

"We should go to a convention where Dan and Phil are. I heard that Zoe might be there too."
"YESYESYES THERE'S THAT FESTIVAL WE CAN GO TO"

But be aware: Festivals are only for privileged friends. Don't spend money on friends you don't know too well.

Step 3: Remember it. 

When it's their birthday, give them a card or a present if you REALLY like them. Find out what they like and give them a present to do with it.
Make sure you're good friends before giving them birthday pressies - if you're a stranger to them and you just simply happen to know that they like frozen and you give them a plush olaf, they might think you're a bit strange as you've been stalking them. But that's mean - decent people would be like "Thanks! What's your name?"

Step 4: Don'ts.

Don't stalk them too much or tell them anything that you only found out through stalking them.

"I love Harry Potter as well!"
"Um I've never told you I liked Harry Potter."
"It was on your facebook. You posted a status 48 hours, 37 minutes and 5 seconds ago saying "Re-reading the Harry Potter books again #nostalgia4lyfff"
"O_O"

Do this instead:

"Hey do you like Harry Potter?"
"Yeeees! I'm re-reading the books."
"Oh cool - that came up on my newsfeed."

If they find out you've been stalking them, they might look at you as clingy and that's a bit of a switch off.

It's good to do some research, but don't be that stalker guy that everyone wants to avoid.
It's fine to look at people's facebook - just don't be clingy!

Don't get into arguments with them.

If they say something you disagree with, just play it cool and don't raise your voice.

Step 5: Be there.

If they're upset, be the shoulder to cry on. Let them know you're there - there's nothing better than knowing either you're not alone or there are people who are supporting you.

I hope that helped a few of you because it certainly helped me. ^.^

-Harriet
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Monday 5 May 2014

How to deal with sadness/suicide

(So, this is quite a different post to what I usually do. I got inspired to make this post for anyone, anywhere.)


Being sad is probably one of the things in the world that sucks the most.
It sucks.
A lot.

Every single human experiences sadness in many ways - whether it's depression, loneliness, heartbreak, anxiety, feeling like you don't have a place in this world or dealing with death (there are billions of other kinds of sadness), all humans experience at least one of these things and you shouldn't feel like the only one, even though it's hard not to think of that at the time. Loads of people in this world are going through the same thing as you. Don't feel like the only one dealing with something, because there are other people out there who know how you feel. If you're going through a crisis or a sudden turn in the road, I am here in case you want to talk to me. There are also thousands of people who can help you.

-Your family

-The school councillor (Yes, there is one in pretty much EVERY school in the first world. They don't tell the students who don't need a councillor.)

-Your friends - if you trust someone who is willing to keep a secret for you, tell them! It's what friends are for.

-Hotlines (I'll put some at the bottom of the post.)

-Police

-Go to this website: www.thequietplaceproject.org because it really helped me - you ask anonymous people to solve your problems, write down stuff where nobody else can see it and you can help other anonymous people - you could save a life on there. Someone could save yours.

 But how can I make this sadness go away?

 Well, it depends what it is.

 -Take time. Don't expect your gloominess to be over in a day. Time is key to happiness. If you're mourning over someone or you've just had a fallout/breakup, it's clear that you won't be all right after that day. It takes time, but eventually, you'll be happy! It's better than never being happy again.

-Distractions. If someone's died or you just broke up with someone/got rejected by someone, distract yourself from the sadness! Eat loads of chocolate - it has the same mood-lifting compounds found in ecstasy, morphine and marijuana. Don't do drugs, though. ^.^
Watch youtube videos, play video games, go to sleep, take a really amaaaazing bath, bake something, exercise, look at cats, ANYTHING!

-Talk. A lot of people are there for you, so if you need advice or someone to vent to, do it to someone in person. Or on the internet, if that's what suits you.

-LET IT GOOOOO, LET IT GOOOOO! CAN'T HOLD IT BACK ANYMOREEEEE!
In other words, cry. You feel a lot better afterwards. If you feel like crying later, that's not because it didn't work! Cry when you need to. If you're angry, PUNCH THE SHENANIGANS OUT OF YOUR PILLOW. I might do a post on how to deal with anger. o:

-Anything that suits you.

-If it's a problem that's worrying you, think it through and try to solve it. If it's an exam, go study for it (I wrote a blog post on how to revise for an exam if you want to check that out.) If it's a friend problem or a problem with another person, try to contact them or go to thequietplaceproject.com and go to the 'comfort spot' for help. If you're coming out, search the internet for inspiration. I might write a blog post on how to come out. That's one for the future. :)


If you or someone you know is having suicidal thoughts, get help or get them help. Help is the only way out.

 Suicide hotlines:

You might feel like you don't want help because you want to get out of here as fast as possible, but it gets better with time. I promise you that you'll get better. The problems might not go away, but you as a person will get better. You'll only experience happiness again if you get help.

Here is a children's/teenager's UK hotline. (as the majority of the viewers on this blog are from the UK.)

Childline (part of the NSPCC) (talk to an online counselor in private about almost anything. It also gives you puberty advice and lessons on current issues) :
0800 1111

If you want me to cover any other problems you or someone else might be having, such as eating disorders or self harming, I will be more than willing to make a post about it.

And if you're being bullied, I promise you you'll get better. Speak up and reach out.

 -Harriet


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